Science and evolutionary theory suggests that men are
neurologically hardwired to be polygamous. Oriental philosophy suggests
that the need for a progeny is the root cause of sexual energy, which is
the most powerful of all urges in this world. Our societal norms and
laws are artificial constraints that keep chaos and anarchy in check,
but have done little in changing the male psyche. So with due respect to
all men in this world, the deepest male instincts are still very much
inside us and will probably never go away.
But it doesn't mean that men can use this as an excuse to cheat on spouses and partners; it means that men need not feel guilty if some uncontrollable urge makes them turn their heads to catch a glimpse of a gorgeous lady walking down the lane. Sorry ladies, men have been associating women with fertility since the days we hunted in packs and ate raw flesh, as it is the primary requirement for procreation - the prime responsibility bestowed on males by nature.
On the other side, women being the physically weaker form are bound to carry the impressions that have shaped their genes from our Neanderthal days and beyond. Animals and natural forces compelled them to seek assistance from males. The stronger the male, the better protector he is. Numerous such examples can be found in the animal world, where the alpha male leads and protects the pack. Since we are social animals only, there is no way that we can escape from the inevitability of the animal world.
However, in the world of human beings, alpha males have subtle forms. The 'all muscle hunk' types attract some, while the majority of women have evolved and transcended to give priority to financial and social security. Money and influence are the key metrics for judging the new alpha males.
Everything seems to be logical and in proper place, but only up to this stage of the discussion. Now, we shall introduce the duality of human minds and the perpetual desire to get the best of both worlds, without making any trade-offs.
Men seek fertility and have therefore associated a particular shape of women body that fits the ideal scenario. At an instinctive level, they crave, fantasize and worship it. In a similar fashion, women want muscular physique, as they associate muscular men with better protection. But this is only a tiny part of the whole.
At a fundamental level, bodily cravings are extremely essential but short-lived. Moreover, since bodies have a finite dimension, the necessities associated with it are also finite. The problem pops up when we try to deal with the infinite; the canvas of mind knows no boundaries. It is this seemingly infinite component that makes the world go around.
We live in an age when test-tube babies, surrogate mothers, professional bodyguards and cyber-geniuses are extremely common and have changed the equations of fertility and protection. Thus, the major factor behind our mutually beneficial relationships is nothing but our ever-fleeting mental constructs. Emotional requirements dictate the terms in today's era and are thus impossible to constrain.
Technology has made a nice move in an attempt to satiate the human mind. It has tried to address the problem with 'never-ending more' by creating numbers that our brains are not trained to handle at a cognitive level and therefore, it creates an illusory effect of infinities. Our databases store trillions of bits of information and are creating options to constantly provide us food for thought.
We are getting much more options in online dating than it was previously possible and due to the natural affinity of our minds towards quantitative incomprehensibility, we are preferring it more than dating in a physical world. At a mental level, the space-time continuum is getting influenced by the online avatars in the world of the internet. Perhaps, this is the only possible explanation of the feeling that we feel intimate and time flies by when we interact with someone we like. Since Online Dating websites are fuelled by huge databases of likeable personalities of a diverse nature, we have no better option than to subvert to the virtual version!
But it doesn't mean that men can use this as an excuse to cheat on spouses and partners; it means that men need not feel guilty if some uncontrollable urge makes them turn their heads to catch a glimpse of a gorgeous lady walking down the lane. Sorry ladies, men have been associating women with fertility since the days we hunted in packs and ate raw flesh, as it is the primary requirement for procreation - the prime responsibility bestowed on males by nature.
On the other side, women being the physically weaker form are bound to carry the impressions that have shaped their genes from our Neanderthal days and beyond. Animals and natural forces compelled them to seek assistance from males. The stronger the male, the better protector he is. Numerous such examples can be found in the animal world, where the alpha male leads and protects the pack. Since we are social animals only, there is no way that we can escape from the inevitability of the animal world.
However, in the world of human beings, alpha males have subtle forms. The 'all muscle hunk' types attract some, while the majority of women have evolved and transcended to give priority to financial and social security. Money and influence are the key metrics for judging the new alpha males.
Everything seems to be logical and in proper place, but only up to this stage of the discussion. Now, we shall introduce the duality of human minds and the perpetual desire to get the best of both worlds, without making any trade-offs.
Men seek fertility and have therefore associated a particular shape of women body that fits the ideal scenario. At an instinctive level, they crave, fantasize and worship it. In a similar fashion, women want muscular physique, as they associate muscular men with better protection. But this is only a tiny part of the whole.
At a fundamental level, bodily cravings are extremely essential but short-lived. Moreover, since bodies have a finite dimension, the necessities associated with it are also finite. The problem pops up when we try to deal with the infinite; the canvas of mind knows no boundaries. It is this seemingly infinite component that makes the world go around.
We live in an age when test-tube babies, surrogate mothers, professional bodyguards and cyber-geniuses are extremely common and have changed the equations of fertility and protection. Thus, the major factor behind our mutually beneficial relationships is nothing but our ever-fleeting mental constructs. Emotional requirements dictate the terms in today's era and are thus impossible to constrain.
Technology has made a nice move in an attempt to satiate the human mind. It has tried to address the problem with 'never-ending more' by creating numbers that our brains are not trained to handle at a cognitive level and therefore, it creates an illusory effect of infinities. Our databases store trillions of bits of information and are creating options to constantly provide us food for thought.
We are getting much more options in online dating than it was previously possible and due to the natural affinity of our minds towards quantitative incomprehensibility, we are preferring it more than dating in a physical world. At a mental level, the space-time continuum is getting influenced by the online avatars in the world of the internet. Perhaps, this is the only possible explanation of the feeling that we feel intimate and time flies by when we interact with someone we like. Since Online Dating websites are fuelled by huge databases of likeable personalities of a diverse nature, we have no better option than to subvert to the virtual version!
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