Depressed After a Break Up? How to Get Him to Want You Back

Depressed After a Breakup? 6 Steps to Get Him To Want You Back
If you're depressed after a breakup and hoping to get your ex boyfriend to want you back, you're probably making mistakes that will bite you in the ass. Are you coming off as needy? Doing things you wouldn't normally do? Begging, pleading, drunk dialing, and crying on his voicemail? Humiliating yourself in the name of love?
Girlfriend, it has to stop!!! No matter how desperate you feel inside, looking desperate will only make it worse. We've all been there, so don't beat yourself up about it. The important thing is to change what you do from now on. Of course, that isn't easy, but you're here to learn how to come out on top.
When you think of going back to desperate antics, just remember that it will only make you unattractive. Instead of helping to get him to want you back, it will make him see you as a sad, needy doormat-someone he either wants to walk all over or walk away from. You don't want that, right?
How Do I Get My Ex Boyfriend To Want Me Back...
Not only will the following techniques help you win him back; they will help you maintain your self-respect and earn his respect too. They will make you, and your relationship, stronger than ever.

1. Stop arguing. It's tempting to go back and forth with your ex about who caused the breakup, but you must stop having these arguments. If he insists on talking about it, just listen to his point of view. Decide if there is anything you can learn from what he says. Surely you weren't a perfect angel in the relationship, so use this as an opportunity to apologize for something specific. Don't take responsibility for all the relationship problems. Don't apologize for having feelings and opinions. Simply acknowledge your mistakes and say you're sorry for them. This is a difficult step, but you must decide what's most important: fixing your relationship or being right. This approach often deescalates anger, and leads to an apology from him as well.


2. Don't tell him that you can't live without him (or that he can't live without you). No man likes being manipulated or pushed, so don't use these tactics to get your ex boyfriend back. By telling him that he's nothing without you, you appear hateful and you push him to prove you wrong. Along the same lines, telling him that you can't live without him will push him to find a girl who can. The bottom line is this: Desperation is ugly. Men want confident, self-assured women who don't beg or push.


3. Give him room to pursue. Because men naturally love a chase, they place higher value on things (and people) they have to work for. So stop calling and texting him every time you feel lonely. Stop hunting the hunter. The last thing a man wants is to love, cherish, and respect a doormat that's grovelling at his feet. To get him to want you back, give him time to miss you, want you, and come for you.


4. Establish boundaries. When your ex comes back to you, make sure it is for the right reasons. If he just wants to make sure you haven't found someone new, don't give him details about your life. End the conversation promptly. If he just wants a booty call, immediately turn him down. This is your way of letting him see that you value yourself. Do not give up your time, attention, or panties until he's desperate to get you back.


5. Take care of yourself. It's normal to feel depressed after a break up, but you can't just lie around crying all day. Get going! Don't expect to get your ex boyfriend back without doing some work on yourself. Take small steps to improve-a new hairstyle, taking long walks, meditating, eating healthy, having a positive attitude. These changes make you feel better about yourself, which then makes you more attractive to everyone else. Of course, that includes your ex. When he comes running back, you won't have to start where the relationship ended. He'll see how you've grown, and he'll want to measure up. He'll want to work his way back into your arms.


6. Know your worth. No matter what, remember that you are worth loving. Moreover, you CAN live without your ex. You're stronger than you think, and you never need to beg for a guy's love. The more you remind yourself of this, the more it will show in your behavior. And the more he'll find you irresistible.

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